By: Terry Jones
Breakup is tough… but I don’t need to remind you…. If you just broke up, you know it better than anyone.
If you still love your ex very much and feel you should be together after all, you’re probably wondering if they still care and looking for ways on how to get your ex back.
Getting back together with an ex is not a small thing and one of the biggest hurdles you’ll face will be your own emotions and instincts… This may seem odd and counterintuitive, but acting upon your impulses at this stage might do more harm than good.
Tip 1) In order to be able to calm down and get your emotions under control, you need to cut all ties with your ex for about one month. This has several advantages at play in our favor at once…
It will help both of you re-evaluate the relationship plus you’ll let your ex miss you at the same time. It’s a big danger after a break up to want to swamp your ex with attention and reason with them or beg them to come back. Don’t do it, or they will lose respect for you.
It’s a natural psychological reaction and will only push your ex farther away from you.
Tip 2) Don’t drink to drown your sorrow and don’t lock yourself in the house all day to cry yourself to sleep. Just think about it… if you want to win your ex back, you have to do something about it. Sitting at home and waiting for the wine to miraculously sort out the situation is not going to be of much use.
Instead “force” yourself if you have to, to get together with few friends (only those who care about you and who are positive) and get active. Get out there, get in shape (this does wonders for your confidence) and hit the town!
Think about it from your ex’s perspective for a moment…
Who do you think is your ex going to find more attractive… the one with the wine or the one with the positive attitude. Yes, it’s counterintuitive to want to get out and distract yourself from the pain, but it will be much more in your favor once you approach your ex again.
Tip 3) After about one month, gradually contact your ex and suggest to meet up casually for a coffee and such and just talk about rather general things and don’t bring up your relationship or big issues yet. Tell them about something positive in your life and…. whatever you do, try to look your best!
This will help you boost your confidence and make you much more desirable.
If you managed to keep distance during last month, your ex is likely going to be very curious about you anyway and just very surprised and this will put you in a very strong position.
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