Breakup isn’t easy… and if you just broke up, you know that better than anyone.
Chances are however that you have strong feelings for your ex and miss them terribly. What might come as a surprise to you is that after a breakup there is a lot you can do to mend the broken relationship and get your ex back in your arms, but most people never try to do anything about it or lose hope before they even take one step.
The wisdom of the world shows that a very high percentage of broken relationships can be fixed, but only very few couples take action, because they make themselves think that it’s impossible and give up before they even started.
And that’s sad… Sometimes even something as simple as an effective and sincere apology is all it’s needed to sort things out… and sometimes a bit more than that might be needed, but please know that there is hope. It’s important to approach things the right way and have the right plan, because otherwise you might run into unforeseeable obstacles that you don’t know how to handle.
Here some tips to get you on the right path to success:
Tip 1) Don’t contact your ex for about 3-4 weeks even if that feels very difficult and counter-intuitive. This could be one of the single most effective and critical steps you can take to win the interest of your ex back and keep them.
Avoid calling them or texting them like crazy or when you get drunk. All of us tend to do that, but if you know it’s going to damage your chance considerably, perhaps it’ll be easier for you to avoid. That’s my hope…
If you keep pressuring your ex and don’t leave them a little free space to re-think the situation as well, you are only going to push them away. Also, if you don’t contact your ex for about a month, they will begin to miss you, wonder how you are doing and actually realize that you are a strong person. This will increase their respect for you a lot.
Tip 2) Don’t drown your sorrows in liquor, please. You are not doing anyone any good by doing that, not yourself and not your relationship… That’s because you are not actively taking any steps to improve the situation. You re rather forgetting it for a short period of time and hoping for a miracle to happen to get your ex back.
But if you want any chance to get your ex back, it’s critical that you do some thinking and analyzing to find out what really went wrong.
Then you have to be prepared to work on yourself too and not expect your ex to do all the work. If they dumped you, it’s likely there was something not right on your part and that needs to be identified and improved. The bottle is not going to help you here in any way…
Tip 3) After about a month is over “gently” start contacting your ex again and try to meet up in a very casual tone at first. Don’t be pushy, demanding or expecting them to make quick decisions, because that could scare your ex away, before they got the chance to re-examine the situation and to re-connect with you.
Let them know that you just want to see how they are doing and to tell them what good things have happened in your life. Yes, I mean good things! Be positive. Don’t bring up “baggage” at this stage, resolve the bigger issues when the right time comes. If all goes well after the first contact chances are you’ll begin seeing each other more often and the right time will come. The less you push, the less they will pull, that’s an universal psychological secret to remember.
That’s not a complete strategy for all there is to it, but it will still get you very far on the way to get your ex back. If you’d like some more tips on how to “uncover” the real reason for your breakup and develop the right plan, just sign up for the free tips and information below. You’ll get access instantly.