One of the reasons why men decide to break up and end a relationship is often coming from the feeling that the woman is too emotionally dependent on them. One second pretty common reason might be that they simply don’t feel attracted anymore and have decided they need some time off and be on their own.
Therefore, getting your ex boyfriend back involves making some changes and not letting similar issues as the mentioned above to happen.
In fact, it is recommended that you leave your boyfriend “alone” right after the break-up, so they can actually realize that some change occurred and don’t remain in the phase as feeling they are kind of still inside the relationship. Allow a sufficient amount of time to pass (according to your feel…. 2-3 weeks is recommended) and then get in touch with him again, but only briefly enquire how he is doing.
Slowly increase the frequency of the contact until you feel confident enough to invite him to go out with you for a quick (and uncomplicated) get-together.
Choose the place and the activity with care; the best choice is an activity both of you enjoyed doing together at some point in the past. This way he will realize there are things he is missing out on, and it will remind him of the good times you used to have when you were together.
Be patient and slowly make those casual meetings more frequent. Don’t bring up heavy relationship talk until you have established a good ground first (or this could make him feel frustrated and claustrophobic with the result of seeing him run away from you before he could reassess your relationship).
While you are together, do your best to show him you are willing to bring change into your relationship and don’t just insist to be together, while keeping the same old problems intact and not committing to improve the situation.
You should be attentive to what he says, but just stay in the casual zone for now. Focus on the good time both of you are having here and now.
If you didn’t take enough exercise when you were together with your ex, do it now. A good physical appearance always impresses men, and it will have an effect not only on your ex partner, but on other men too. Don’t worry, you don’t have to act upon other the interest of other men, but just know that your ex will notice that extra attention and this will make him more “protective” of you. He’ll definitely not like other men feeling attracted to you.
You must allow enough time to go by before you bring up the issue of actually re-trying your relationship again. If you focus on some positive changes and show him that you are serious, there is a very big chance he’ll not be able to resist but say “yes” to giving the relationship a second chance.
It can happen naturally, without a previous talk about it. You may notice at some point that you have got back together without thinking about it. This depends on your personalities, and the situations of the actual getting back together have a large scope of possibilities. That’s why you’ll have to choose carefully the right strategy to follow in your case.