Getting your ex husband back is a difficult process. The reasons why men tend to break away from a relationship are either because it has become stale or because they feel claustrophobic in it so to speak… If you are looking for a way to get your ex husband back, you will have to propose some change and take on responsibility to stop your breakup or divorce.
When you have separated, the best thing to do is to leave your husband a period of time to reflect upon things without pressure and become more approachable. It is clear that both of you are traumatized and you need a period of recovery.
When you feel the moment is right, you can contact your ex husband. In case you were the person that broke up, simply apologize (sincerely). It will probably have a miraculous effect. In case it was him who ended the relationship, try to persuade him you are making your best to change yourself and your attitude for the better.
After this first call or message, build up contact progressively and without hurry. When you feel it’s time, you can even invite him to go out “lightly” and practice an activity you both enjoyed when you were together.
He will be reminded that your relationship can be enjoyable and he will also be reminded of how good the relationship used to be, suggesting that he’s missing out on something. Being together with him will also be the right time to show him you made some significant changes for the better.
Show sufficient attention, while at the same time staying somewhat detached. Be careful not to be too clingy or overemotional; this can only drive him away.
Keep fit, especially if you didn’t take much exercise during your relationship. A good shape can always gain you more self-confidence and the attention of the opposite sex in general. And, of course, your ex husband finding you fit and fabulous will win you more plus points.
However, if you want to get him back, you mustn’t act on the attention of other men in “that” sense, as this will drive him even further away for sure.
Changes you have decided to carry out on yourself for the sake of the relationship must be maintained. Don’t expect to go back to normal behavior and at the same time win him back by some tricks. Change is key and if you love him dearly, you will be able to sustain change. If you can’t… then it might be better to move on and not experience another painful and heartbreaking separation some time later.