Winning your ex wife back will likely be a long and difficult process. Keep in mind that women live on the impulse of their emotions and if she left you, it is probably because she felt emotionally frustrated.
The success of getting back together depends mainly on your readiness to change some things in yourself and in your behavior. In case you don’t think you are able to do this, or if you think these changes won’t last, do not try to rebuild the relationship, as it may only bring you more pain further on. Changes will be necessary.
If you think you are ready to support changes that will fulfill her emotional needs, start by contacting her. Do it whenever you consider appropriate, but don’t wait too much, keeping in mind that she might be getting surrounded by other men.
You may contact her by any means you feel are suitable… Call her, send her a text message or an e-mail. Your purpose should be to enquire after her well being and not to overwhelm her with serious talk at this stage.
After this first time, start building contact slowly.
Every time you get in contact, pay attention to her words. Don’t neglect non-verbal signals either: they indicate her feelings and expectations towards you sometimes stronger than you think.
Display a respectful and attentive attitude: show her you value what she is saying and doing. Don’t say it with words… show it! Respect is one of the most important things that can make a woman happy with her partner.
It might be helpful if you flirt a little while you are together, if you think it is not too out of place. Showing her she is desirable will make her feel happier and look more beautiful. But ensure it is not too direct – or it may drive her away.
Act friendly, but don’t allow your relationship to turn into friendship. If you become just a friend for her, it will be almost impossible to get her back as a lover. Most of the time “just friends” will not work in your favor.
And try to not be overemotional… She might get overemotional, but you should not (at least not in front of her).
If you can communicate that you are able to support and respect her (even if you messed up before) and satisfy her emotional needs too, you can rest assured that you will be on the right track to getting your ex wife back.